links for 2010-08-20

  • one-third of couples met in places where no other couples met. E.g., if you're an African explorer, you're more likely to meet your spouse while exploring Africa, and less likely to find your spouse in a Chicago singles bar. School and work are the next-most common meeting locations (15-20%). Parties and bars are good for short-term (less than one month) sexual relationships (17-25%) and not bad for marriages (8-10%). Churches are good for meeting marriage partners (11%), and poor for meeting short-term sex partners (1%). Personal ads and singles cruises are poor places to meet anyone. also liked this: If you want to meet "bad boys"/business men try going to strip clubs during the lunch hour. If you live in the Minneapolis area try Deja Vu for their $2 lunch buffet (tuesdays, Washington Avenue and 3rd).
  • I STRONGLY suspect that there is a enormous gulf between finding out things on your own and being directed to them by a peer. When you find something on your own (existential risk, cryonics, whatever), you get to bask in your own fortuitousness, and congratulate yourself on being smart enough to understand it's value. You get a boost in (perceived) status, because not only do you know more than you did before, you know things other people don't know. But when someone else has to direct you to it, it's much less positive. When you tell someone about existential risk or cryonics or whatever, the subtext is "look, you're weren't able to figure this out by yourself, let me help you". No matter how nicely you phrase it, there's going to be resistance because it comes with a drop in status - which they can avoid by not accepting whatever you're selling. It actually might be WORSE with smart people who believe that they have most things "figured out".

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